Careful… Call Ended? 

Annoying spouse, difficult clients, troublesome friend. 

Few of the categories of people who’ll make you curse, giggle, diss or make fun of after a phone call. 

But before you are tempted to do any of that, maybe you have to hear these stories. They may either 

1. Make you bold tell people directly how you feel about an issue 

2. Make sure you don’t joke with your call ended button on your phone 

3. Be very careful about pocket-dialing, butt-dialing or hip dialing. 

Ghanaians talk, and the world over women do talk a lot. 

I’d share some experiences from people and mine as well. 

(1) 

Client Lost

I had this client I was working for. I had just landed a deal to write speeches for this client. He was an influential man and a head of an oil company. 

He sketched the details of his speech and I wrote it as he wanted. After sending him my reply, he called back late to tell me I had not written what he sent. 

So I went back and checked. It was the same thing he sent. 

In a few hours, he sent a different thing to me to work on. Worked on it and wrote it carefully for him. He called back to say my tone for the speech was too calm and he wanted to sound more ‘CEOish’. 

Did that. 

He called again to tell me I had written like the staff of his work and club were his minors so while he drove he quoted verbatim what he wanted to say. 

I typed it and sent it to him. Guess what? 

He called again and said I had not done what he asked of me. In the cause of me trying to explain that I did just what he asked, he insisted what he said was different. 

Considering the workload on me for the day, and me spending so much time on a one-paged speech I got peeved. 

So after the call, I began complaining about why some clients were so troublesome and would disturb people. 

I called him someone who did not know what he wanted, and said he was confused. 

Then I looked at my phone. 


Damn! He was still on the line. Saying repeatedly, Hello, Hello, Hello. 

I hang up quickly. He called again, pretended he didn’t hear my comments, and that was all. 

I lost the deal. Cost me money. 

(2)

Wife’s Error 

She had visited her girls. Married to a man she loved. There had been some challenges in the marriage and like girls always do… 

They Talk… And Plenty. 

As they had their convo, girls girls, the married woman had a call from her husband. He asked her where she was and made some enquiries. 

Then they ‘ended’ the call. 

Trouble began after the call. 

She started narrating the problems of the home to her friends. She spoke of how she truly felt concerning her man, how lazy he was and the fact that he wasn’t bringing home money. 

He hadn’t put the phone down yet. She heard someone shouting 

‘Hello’. 

And guess. The mess had been created. 

Another marital peace destroyed. 

3. Plot unraveled. 

Jamie planned to make Lucy suffer for something she had not done. Jamie was Lucy’s best friend. She trusted him so much. 

They worked in a bank, and Jamie had forged Lucy’s signature to a set of documents that would have gotten him dismissed. 

On the night before the morning when auditors would come around, Lucy had a ‘call’ from Jamie. 

She repeatedly said ‘Hello, hello’ 

No response. 

Then she heard Jamie’s voice. He was alone in the room. 

I’m forging and forging till it can’t be see its me. He laughed and giggled. Jamie called the assistant manager who was her personal friend to cross check for her.

Story short, Jamie was arrested. 

Pocket dialing or not hanging up on a call could have serious implications. 

That’s when you understand that apart from people who are pleased to gossip and paint others dark, most Ghanaians and people all over are not able to voice how they feel. 

It would have been simple if we said the truth about how we feel. Than waiting for the person’s absence after all a call. 

Be careful, shhhh… Who’s listening. 

Cheers to a good day! 

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Five Ugly Mistakes Ghanaian Parents make. And Then…(2)

We continue the expedition to parents world of mistakes. 

Mistake Number 3. 

When a parent by God’s grace has seen their child get married, the next expectation is to see their grandchildren so that their titles of Grandpa and Grandma do not go defunct. 

In actual sense, to most parents, having grandchildren comes with so much pride and happiness and they cannot afford to miss those experiences. Where their children would be so busy working and leave their grandchildren with them. 

But it’s sometimes not easy to get a baby. For some people it’s a Herculean task and parents become the fuel to troubling those children to make very dangerous choices. 

Some parents would call their children names. There are instances where the parents suspect the child may have been into some bad practices or should have been cursed by some old man or woman in the village. 

Barrenness ruins so many great relationships in families. The pressure and questions from parents could ruin a marriage totally. Usually it’s the woman first. They assume her womb is perpetually shut and she cannot carry her own baby. 

Until now, just a few parents support their children and show them love and concern when it comes to the very delicate matter of child bearing. 

If the couple is affluent, the parents could speculate the obvious. Probably, the man has donated every semen he would ever produce to a cult in exchange for money. Some Ghanaian Parents say worse and actually do worse. 

That’s a huge blunder. 

Childbearing is a gift from God. He gives to whom He pleases and it’s about time. If more parents were supportive and more understanding, the probability of them seeing more grandchildren would not be a problem at all. 

Mistake Number 4

Every child has a different dream and goal. Thanks be to God. There’s been an increasing awareness that every career has potential to earn income, provided the individual is creative, dedicated and committed to the goals they set. 

When it comes to academia, especially choosing a course or a field of study, some parents are seen to dominate. 

Heard of a friend whose father had purchased  university admission forms for him and filled out all the details without telling him about it. 

(I felt he should have his father in court already) 


Some parents would want their family members to remain doctors and would act as though their children who may have chosen a different discipline were disobedient and rebellious. 

And if the parents are successful in persuading their children to do a particular course or study a particular program against their will… 

This happens. 

Children become less passionate and miss the joy in being in school. Children have a hard time focusing on their true dreams and goals and it kills their spirit. 

Then… 

The parents start to complain. He’s not performing. His results are woefully bad. She has been following guys around and not studying. 

Maybe you should remember as parents that helping your children become better doesn’t mean making every single decision for them. It means giving them the necessary guidance and counseling, while you pay attention to their thoughts and seek their best interest. 

Finally. 

Mistake Number 5

Parents should never compare children. Every child is unique in their own way. 

Ghanaian parents love to do this. See your brother. See your sister, and have a look at yourself. 

Ugly ugly mistake. 

Kills and dampens a person’s spirit and makes life very tough for other children who may want to prove their parents wrong and may go dangerous lengths to get that done. 
May be parents could take a second look at their actions. Having the best interest of your children means doing everything out of love, no selfish gain or personal thoughts. 

After all, we appreciate you so much. 

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Five Ugly Mistakes Ghanaian Parents make. And Then…(1)

Parents are our first friends. Ghanaian parents could be like the tides of the sea. They are sometimes friendly and welcoming, other times, they make children feel they were a storm that approached their lives. 

It’s easy to understand why a parent would wish a child did just what they wanted. That they’ve fed you, clothed you, catered well for you. Even in the most challenging times, they had to work extra hard to make you comfortable. Clap for parents. 

It’s unbelievable some parents actually have the notion that they’ve heavily invested in a child. Apparently, they seek to earn interest like some fixed deposit in the bank, or like some heavy package from an investment. Well, that’s not bad. At all. 

But. 

Mistake number one. 

Whenever Ghanaian parents are quick to benefit from a child’s success, there are huge problems caused. Not ruling out the fact that some children are unbelievably ungrateful, despicably forgetful of their parents unflinching diligence to their God-given duty, inversely, it is dangerous for parents to assume their children are being stingy. 

In conversations with so many young people, it’s their heavenly dream to someday build their parents a mansion or buy them their dream car. If only every parent would believe in the power of time and carefully commit themselves to encouragement and prayer. 

After they have exerted pressure on the kids to be forcefully successful, and compared them to almost every other parent’s successful kids. 

then…

The demons of low self esteem, abamdonment and sadness floods their lives. Now children have to resort to sakawa, fraudulent acts, drug peddling and prostitution. Sad. 

Maybe parents should just take it easy. 


Mistake Number Two. 

We know how you love to see your children wedded. How you’ld love it when we bring our darling spouses to you and you give us your final blessing. 

Then again, for the ladies there’s a different twist. Until you hear the tales of what some mothers do to see their children married, you wouldn’t see this as relevant in a mistake category. 

Stories have been told where parents would not accept any financial aid from a successful child who hasn’t married. Others wouldn’t even communicate with them. Some mothers would visit prayer camps, prophets, fetish priests and fortune tellers to speak on their children’s marital dreams. 

And then…

The child succumbs to the pressure. 

Three months after, the girl married a fraud. Or, she has found out the guy is impotent. Or, the lady has cheated on him. Sometimes they are just not compatible and the marriage won’t last. Sometimes it’s got to with issues of abuse, mistrust, identity crisis and ugly quarrels. 

Then… 

You’ll see how parent become apologetic and start to find ways to make the marriage work. They make it seem as though you’ve made wrong choices all your life. Most marriages haven’t lasted because of pressures from home. Some people would have to go through four marriages and endure four divorces before they discover the ‘right rib’. 

Maybe parents should take it easy. They’ll get wedded eventually. Unless there’s of course a child who has already professed to being eternally celebate or an ordained narcissistic. You could give those a try. 

Visit tomorrow as I discuss mistake 3,4 and 5. 

Great day! 

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Book Review

Book Title: The President’s Physician 

                    …bumps on a smooth road. 

Author: Dr. Bettina Ama Boohene-Andah

Number of pages: 200 

Number of chapters: 17

Foreword: H.E Olusegun Obasanjo

Publisher: Dr. Bettina A.K. Boohene-Andah

Country: Ghana 
Great! I kick start the month of August with a review on the book The President’s Physician …bumps on a smooth road by Dr. Bettina Ama Boohene-Andah. 

When I first got a hold of this book from a lady in Holy Child School, I could not but quickly want to start flipping through the pages of the book to find out what were the words behind catchy and interesting title(a good start for book success) 

I must say, the choice of the book cover and the words on the front page of the book are directly relational and any reader would love to read the details of what the book has to offer. 

It was a rainy cold dumsor afternoon, of course my phone’s battery power had died and my laptop’s battery followed. I picked the book and started reading it page by page. 

Interestingly, unlike most books where you have to read the first three chapters or more to enjoy, this book gave me more reason to turn the pages and quickly absorb the amazing lessons as the words continued to fill the pages. 

Dr. Bettina Ama Boohene-Andah speaks of a very challenging environment and a determination that set her apart. After displaying a heroic attitude towards her work after the May 9, disaster she had an encounter with the President (J.A. Kuffour) which began the journey to her enviable position. 

She speaks of her most thrilling experiences when she travelled the world over (more like teasing those of us who haven’t been anywhere yet) , meeting people and having to face some daunting challenges that crossed her path. The author focuses on making every reader have a lovely time while reading by employing adjectives and adverbs that make readers love her skillful authorship. 


Book launch 

Lessons. 

  • Focuses on achieving your dreams and not bending your principles. She had to defer her course and rewrite her paper in medical school. This made her graduate a year after. 
  • Versatility should be explored. The good doctor was a fashion designer and a radio presenter as well. 
  • Family comes first. Even with a very busy schedule, she made time to speak with her two lovely daughters everyday, when she was away. 
  • Acknowledge people’s efforts on your way to success. Teamwork with her husband made a great impact. Her mother was also a blessing. 
  • When a person should be frank and stern they should. She once got stern and furious to the surprise of the President. 
  • Empowers women to be dedicated and strong. She stresses on the need for women to remain virteous and not sacrifice their virtue for fame or glory. 
  • Do not follow the status quo. She managed to successfully restore to function the clinic at the presidency. A good achievement. 
  • She fought against challenges, and moved on. Prayer became her friend, frequenting prayer meetings. God revealed some good secrets that helped her. 

Dr Bettina’s book comes with a Photo Gallery that give us a feel of her meetings with the world’s most influential people. 

Not so clear thoughts. 

After reading the book, I rather found it strange that she would have financial challenges with furthering her education. The thought being that Dr Bettina had served the President and with a position like that, perception is funding should have come easily. She had to find ways and means of being sponsored by influential men to support her education. 

Women always think they’ve done something wrong. 

She epitomizes one characteristic of women we usually meet. She had a few challenges with some of her colleagues. One time, an official disagreed to let her enter the President’s room claiming the President was asleep. She managed to enter the room after sometime and the man lied. The president was not asleep. 

She thought she had offended this official. But why should it always be so. There are so many reasons a person may show you a wrong attitude. The person could be depressed, worried, disturbed, and troubled. It happens. Probably, it’s a woman thing.

Remarks 

For the girlchild! This book is a brilliant gift for every girlchild in Ghana. It’s got the spice and style for a motivational dream come true spirit. 

For the adult! Gives you a glance of a world most people wonder of. Great book. 

It scores 4.1/5
Get a copy today! 

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Do you remember the days when hosting a television show, coming as a guest, acting a movie or speaking on radio made you an instant celebrity? 

If you do, juxtapose those times to today’s world, where the influx of media and diverse entertaining channels have surfaced. You would notice a vast difference between the two ages. 

I Watched Your Fight Too! 

The world mourns the death of a great boxer, a legend an inspiration and a mentor. A man of action, activism and an attitude towards winning that makes you want to stand in the boxing ring, and dash out when reality hits you after some few minutes, that, ‘you aren’t a real boxer, it’s just you lost in Muhammed Ali’s inspiration’. 

Well, not each one of us could stand in the boxing ring, or be the one who’ll defeat the other outstanding boxers. We cannot all be the winners of every round and stand the pain of being punched in the chest, in the face, the head while the bell chimes the next round. Ali’s greatness is defined by his consistent and persistent motivation to winning with excellence and leaving no loopholes for doubt that his win was well-deserved and earned. 

Believe, it’s the stamina, that he gained from his first fight, the experience that he attached to what he’d learned, the training that he so committed himself to, the determination, the chants by his friends, family and fans and the optimism he added to every fight that has made him what we celebrate today at age 74. 


On the day of his demise, I tried to read every  article, news item and tributes written in this icon’s name. A writer wrote about Ali’s fighting spirit and strong will to stand tall and firm even in his long term battle with Parkinson’s disease. In the piece, the write-up acknowledged that there was a time, when the great fighter had given-in to the conditions. This was when things actually became exceedingly tough. 

The ability to win, is birthed out of a will to fight. The battles of this world, physical or spiritual have exceptional ways of weighing us down, to make us frustrated and take every little strength from our fragile souls. There are times we feel that there is no strength and we would want to throw in the towel and just lift our hands and say, it’s over! 

Every fighter must learn to do many things and it’s just one I’d like to share with you. The fighter in you, should know he is a winner. Brag to yourself positively about all your great fights you’ve won, tell yourself you aren’t a failure. Are you asking if you’ve won any battles yet? 

Do you remember when you defeated that severe headache? Do you remember how you won that contract? May you’ve forgotten about the girl you really had to date and this guy wouldn’t leave. You remember how you skillfully plotted and won her heart. Again, probably you should reflect on the way you struggled to catch a seat in a bus in the midst of an overcrowded car. Don’t forget how you once told a bully in his face about his useless attitude and threatened him till he had no courage to come close to you. 

These are examples of every single fight you’ve fought. You may not have earned a title belt for it, but, with every fight, you became better, stronger, wiser, older, and gained experience. 

There are times we focus on so many ‘big’ things and want to be overwhelmed by them. Don’t forget to seaech deep in your memories and remember how much of a fighter you are. If you still don’t believe this, remember the fact that you have Life. That’s your certificate of evidence of your exceptional fighting spirit. 

Be strong, remember your every battle and know, that you have everything it takes to win. Never give up. Remind yourself of the great battles you’ve won, like the ant, tell yourself you’ve crossed great rivers and believe in the God-given abilities you have. Never look down on yourself or wait till you have a huge platform. You’ve been a fighter since your birth. 

We thank God for Ali’s life. The lesson’s he taught the world were great. This is mine for you. 

We are all fighters in our own right!!!

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The Sheba Who Wasn’t Queen. 

Graduating from the roots of our very traditional system of having company that was either desired or not to the modern day living where the nuclear family system has steadily replaced its roots, Ghanaian homes have always been full and fun, with lots of drama, interaction and more importantly communal living. 

This form of living, characterized by the presence of family members, either under the same roof, or on a compound presented early morning greetings, daily and weekly chore schedules, and night associations that were mostly desired. 

Fortunately or unfortunately, it’s come to the point that the average Ghanaian’s desire to live in a city like Accra, Kumasi or Takoradi and others, presents a living that’s probably marked with stress, management, and organization of daily routines that would minimize cost and satisfy the fewer people in the home. Parents are left in the village, uncles find their own small apartments and just a few children are willing to accommodate their parents in their homes, under their roofs. 

It’s not uncommon that for so many reasons, Ghanaians have chosen to find other sources of company to entertain themselves while they live private lives and make a good living. 

It’s either a dog, cat, hen, or a parrot. These are the most common ones you would find here and they are present in most homes for company, security or economic value. Any other reason, I’m certain people usually don’t share. 

It’s become common to a number of enlightened Ghanaians hosting these pets to very admirable conditions, like having special menus for them, giving them regular baths, taking them on strolls on weekly basis as well as finding them suitable partners for another integral aspect of pet development; mating. 

It’s fascinating to see cats lay in people’s couches, dogs roam in rooms and seated at their allocated area and the house owners getting furious when they realize the pet has not been adequately fed or given enough care in their absence. Others train their pets, as though they would ever utter a word, by taking them through a few preliminary language lessons. They obey words as sit, stand, let’s go, inside and the like. 

Inasmuch as most pets covet to also feel special and loved, just as probably every human does, some pets have always cursed the day they came to a particular home. If they ever said a prayer, they would re-affirm the Israelites prayer for God to take them completely out of the mess they face. 

These unfortunate pets are hustlers, no choice of their own. They are kept hungry, fend for themselves and stray to find their own food, friends and affection. The owners of these pets are unfriendly, uncaring, inattentive, and aren’t concerned about their well being. 

The educational system in Ghana has made it quite difficult for people to keep up with their pets. It is mostly the young children in the home who have time for these pets but when it’s time for them to advance their education and move into the boarding houses, parents and relatives are indifferent towards them allowing the pets to feel the hole and gaps their perfect friends have left; they have to endure. 

  

One thing that disgusts and irritates pet lovers is the fact that some people actually take pleasure in abusing pets, something that beats their imagination. It’s either calling them wicked names, kicking them in their bellies or throwing objects at them, for reasons best known to themselves. 

In some homes it’s common to see cats being kicked and sacked when the food is good and wants to be enjoyed outside. Or dogs being smacked for defecating where they are not supposed to. Only if these pets could report what happens to them or at least had people who did that on their behalf, there would have been some interesting statistics. 

I remember meeting Sheba, a beautiful female dog, pretty and firm. She should have been about four years, and any body would be careful when they entered the home and saw Sheba. 

What fascinated me most was, Sheba took to her heels anytime she met someone new. She rarely barked, and was meticulous in meeting people. 

After some days, I decided to inquire about her seemingly strange behavior. Her caretakers explained to me how Sheba had had a terrible past, years of abuse and unfair treatment. Her former owners would beat her and abuse her in every direction, starving her and making her depressed, left alone and sad. 

It took a family member to secretly rescue her and bring her home. There was news that was even more fascinating. The care taker mentioned 

‘She is better now, she would eat charcoal every evening but allows people to touch her and hold her once in a while’. 

Another interesting scenario. After realizing their cat wasn’t fine, this Ghanaian family decided to take it to the veterinary for diagnoses and treatment. All three of the newly born kittens had died because the mother of the cats wouldn’t go near them. The cat had a good record of taking care of the several kittens she had bore but seemed to have absolutely lost interest in these ones. 

The cat was taken to the veterinary and after careful tests and analysis, she was given medication all at the cost of 50 cedis. When the old woman in the house heard of the cost, she almost went haywire. She shouted at the top of her voice and just couldn’t fathom why such an amount of money should be spent on an animal. Who cares? Death comes right, they should’ve just left it? 

I followed up, the cat’s healthy and whole, playing around and living well.

Pets United is calling, for your support, care and love. We need you to understand we are not witches nor wizards, nor a bother to you. We love you and would want to be part of you… 

Yours sincerely,  

Pets in Ghana. 

If you feel like responding to this call, I’m certain you would take the initiative to pay attention to these creations of God, educate the abusers, share your leftovers rather than dump them in trashes for them to find, give them a bath and make them feel bad. 

Maybe veterinarians should expand their scope and not give up on Ghanaians yet. Educate the masses on their roles. Associations should be ready to defend these creatures and spread the word about their significance in homes. 

For those who love their Bibles, maybe you’ve not discovered the part that talks about a special blessing for pet and animal lovers. 

Get busy, save a pet. 

Bobbywrites